Relationships

I know when you see this title you'll think, "Eww, relationships? Really Steven?", but I am completely serious about this topic. I don't mean just relationships that you have that you hope to move towards marriage or something, I just mean relationships in general. Relationships with family, friends, and even your dog :)

I LOVE life because...Relationships can be made.

Lately I have realized that relationships are an important thing in this world to make. I have been thinking about this a lot lately because we have been talking about them in my psychology class. One thing I love about psychology is that it makes you think, a lot, about thinking and pretty much every aspect of your life. Something I learned recently was when we start to make the links in our brains that we have a relationship with someone. In the first six months of life we don't really know much of anything. We know that we eat, sleep, and put boom-boom in our pants. We just have survival instincts, because every animal is inbred with these instincts. It is not til the second half of the first year of life that we begin to realize some connections. At this time we finally realize a thing called Attachment. In psychological vernacular, attachment is defined as: the strong affectionate tie we have with special people in our lives that leads us to feel pleasure when we interact with and them and to be comforted by their nearness in times of stress.

How amazing is it that we are biologically programmed to attach to someone on an emotional level? There's a whole study on this with monkeys and it's super interesting, but I'm not going to go into that because it would take a really long time...anyway. The bottom line is that we all want relationships and closeness to somebody, unless you are Sheldon from Big Bang, then you are excused. 

The cutest picture of my parents

The first relationship we develop is that with our family. Specifically our mother. If you know me, you'll know that I love my mother with all my heart. She is the best person I know and knows me better than I know myself. I can't even describe how much I love this woman. She has been there for me through every single thing in my life. The good, the bad, everything. She is the most amazing person I know, and I would not be here today without her (biologically and emotionally speaking). The most common relationship that comes next is with the father. My father is one of the strongest people I know. My whole life he has been sick, but he has always seemed so strong to me. I guess I follow in his footsteps in the being sick part, but I hope to be as strong as he is someday. I may not always agree with what he says, and he probably doesn't always agree with me, but I love him so much.

Me and my beautiful sisters

Next comes our relationship with our siblings. I have four beautiful older sisters. Some people ask me if I like being the only boy and the youngest, and all I have to say is that yes, I loved it. Of course I always wanted a brother, but having four older sisters has prepared me for a lot of things that others aren't prepared for. My sister Corinne is the oldest. She is very headstrong and won't take crap from anyone, not even her husband haha. She's not afraid to tell me when I'm being stupid, which I need sometimes. Megan is next and she has a wonderful spirit about her. I can't really explain it, but she makes me want to be a better person. Hence, she was part of the reason I started this blog. Shalynn comes next. She is such a wonderful sister and cares so much about my well being. She has been through a lot herself, but she still makes sure that I'm okay. Last but not least is my sister Janae. Janae is the smartest person I know. She is beautiful and makes me remember to get out there and try new things. She inspires me to get out of my bubble. ALL of my sisters are incredibly beautiful and loving. I love them so much and couldn't ask for better sisters.

So, I've talked a lot about familial relationships, but there are relationships that can be just as influential as family. That is the relationships we make with the people that we call our friends. I love my friends and I have made many throughout my lifetime. There are those that you know you will have fun with when you see them, and those that you can always laugh with. Those are all great. One of the important ones though, are the friends you can be yourself around. The friends that love you even though they know all of your faults. ALL of your faults. These are the friends that you know you'll have for life. I can think of quite a few that I will always have. Whether they be very old friends, or not so old friends, they are there to stay and I love them. 

In life we all make soooo many relationships. We'll have teachers, cousins, aunts, uncles, everybody. There is one relationship that we all know of, and that is a relationship of love and commitment. This is an interesting topic for many. I am definitely not going to say whether this relationship has to be between a man and a woman or not, it is just a relationship everyone knows about. Each and every person, even animals, want to find a relationship with another person and spend part, if not all of their life with that individual. I honestly can't say that I have a lot of experience in this area, but I can't definitely say that I have found someone that I think I could be with for the rest of my life. I don't know if they know that or not, and they may not for a while, but someday I will see what happens there.


I'm sorry if  you came into this post hoping for something short and funny, or something that maybe makes a little more sense. I really just needed to get things off my chest and write them here for others to see. I know it was super long, but I think it was time well spent. I encourage anyone to really look at the relationships that they have made, and cherish each and every one. That is all for now, peace out world.

I LOVE life because...Relationships can be made.